Category: Thinking and Decisionmaking
In her book, How to Do the Work, Dr. Nicole LePera, says that “the fundamental aspect of emotional maturity is the ability to be aware of and regulate our emotions in order to allow others to express themselves. Or simply the ability to tolerate all of our emotions without losing control….” And yet, when these…
Learning How to Move Past Conflict in a Relationship
With Valentines Day in the rearview mirror, romantic relationships are on many people’s minds. Many times we like to imagine the perfect romantic relationship as one in which we never fight or disagree. However, this does not exist. Every relationship contains conflict because relationships involve two people who necessarily are different. Conflict is inevitable. Rather,…
Take a Mental Health Day
Another side of consciousness is the ability to recognize the negative patterns and thoughts that creep into our minds and look for their roots. Once you understand these things, you can stop the playback reel. When I was eighteen and nearly failed out of my first year at the University of Alabama, I was “forced”…
In Praise of suffering
Knowledge by suffering entereth,and life is perfected by death. Elizabeth Barrett Browning, A Vision of Poets Often we recoil from suffering. We seek to eliminate it from our lives through elimination of risks, by taking opiates, and avoidance. While we should continually seek to eliminate suffering and its causes in this world, we cannot eliminate…
My Favorite books on thinking and decision-making
Eight Books to Help You Make Better Decisions
the samurai wisdom of miyamoto musashi
Musashi’s Book of Five Rings Contains Secret Samurai Wisdom
A warrior has the courage to face and learn from failure.
You Have to Ask Questions to Get Answers
In high school, I wrote a column in the newspaper called “The Question Man.” I was never afraid to ask the hard questions. For instance, I dared to ask whether one of our valedictorians really was God. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized more and more the value of asking the right questions before attempting…
Top Five Ways to Stop Worrying
Here is how you can stop worrying today.
The Intelligence Trap: Being a Thinker Beats Being Smart.
Being intelligent doesn’t mean that you are a good thinker. Sometimes, intelligence can actually lead to poorer thinking. This post tells you how to change that.